I spent over an hour talking to a friend of mine today. She is one of those people that makes it difficult to be a friend to. But, I’ve known her over 50 years. She likes to call and complain about her siblings, which are also my friends. This little game has been going on for years. I just listen and only offer advice or comment when I am forced to.
In the past few months, she has started to reveal things that I have never known about her family. Things, I really don’t need to know. When I was growing up, I spent a lot of time at their house and I thought everything was just fine. Apparently it wasn’t.
The point is that no one is what they appear to be. We all form opinions about other people and we like to like the good things about them, so that’s what we think they are. But, every person has a side they want to keep hidden from others, especially those outside of the family unit. Family members, often protect other members because of fear, embarrassment, or concern for other family members. This is why we often hear something horrible about what appears to be the perfect family or a perfect member of a family.
It is shocking and disappointing to hear bad things about those you think are really good people. Reality is, based upon my experiences, that everyone has faults and flaws and some are extremely concerning.
Perhaps it is best just to accept people for what they want you to think they are. That is the society we live in. But, it can be very disappointing.
Don’t build up someone as being perfect.
They are not.
PMO
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